9 ways to deal with a terrible coworker when quitting simply isn't an option

Bob Sutton Stanford

  • If you’re wondering how to deal with a bad coworker, you’re not alone. Almost every workplace has at least one office jerks.
  • Worse, toxic workplace cultures actively foster more bad behavior.
  • Stanford professor Robert Sutton has some tips on how to deal with bad coworkers.

You’ve got to learn how to deal with workplace jerks if you’re going to advance professionally — and preserve your sanity.

Robert Sutton, professor of management at Stanford University and author of “The No Asshole Rule,” spoke to a number of individuals who have coped with less than ideal coworkers for his upcoming book “The Asshole Survival Guide.

His sources included people who have worked with back-stabbers, incompetent and abusive bosses, and even one man who dealt with a noisy coworker who, according to a decibel meter, was as loud as cutting metal.

He said that, in many cases, it’s best to either avoid working with jerks in the first place or quit and move on.

But that evasive maneuvering isn’t always warranted — or possible for everyone.

With that in mind, Sutton broke down seven strategies for surviving the worst people in your office:

Use cognitive tricks to look on the bright side

Sutton described the experience of a young lawyer who worked for a federal judge as part of a two-year clerkship. Her coworkers and boss were incredibly hard to deal with, but quitting would have been tantamount to career suicide. It’d also leave her drowning in student loan debt.

Sutton said the young lawyer coped by using a simple cognitive behavioral trick. She simply imagined herself at the end of her clerkship.

“When you’re in a difficult situation, if you can say to yourself, ‘If I can just get through tonight and look back on it over the weekend, six months, a year from now,’ stressful situations actually do much less damage on our mental and physical health,” Sutton told Business Insider.

Retain your sense of humor

Another example of cognitive distancing that Sutton recommends is trying to find humor in terrible situations.

“That always helps,” he said. “It’s amazing. You start laughing at people. That’s certainly what I do with some of my more difficult colleagues at Stanford.”

Physically avoid the worst people at work

Switch desks to get away from your annoying neighbor. Sit as far away from the rudest person in the office during meetings. Try to change up your schedule to avoid running into your workplace enemy in the kitchen.

The less you come into contact with workplace jerks, the better, said Sutton.

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